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ok i need advice!?

I live in a small town and ppl there r kind of mean.When i went to the public school i got teased about being over waight so i lost waight.and then they teased me because i was over grown in the chest ( 10 years old in a size b cup!)now i’m 11 and now that i’m home schooled EVERY GUY IN MY OLD CLASS ROOM THINKS I’M HOT!!!!!!!now im trying to decide between home school again or try going to public 6th grade.anything will help.i just need answers.

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glurpy

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If you want to go to school because people think you’re hot, that’s not a good reason.

If people are mean, they’ll find a way to be mean again once you’re in school. Also, if the guys really do favour you, it’ll mean the girls will be witches toward you. Especially through grades 6-8. Something to keep in mind.

Another thing to look at is how you have enjoyed homeschooling this past year and how will it compare to sitting in a desk most of the day, bringing home homework at night (gr. 6 means homework pretty much every day–expect about an hour of it).

My personal recommendation would be to stay home and work on your self-confidence, feeling worthy about yourself regardless of how others approve of your appearance.

ADDED: How to make friends: Check local churches, community centre, newspaper, etc. to find out about lessons, activities, clubs, etc. What do the kids do there when they’re NOT in school? I mean on the weekends, during the summer? Is there any chance of there being any other homeschoolers there?

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Hannah M
Keep going with home school and ask your mum to help you find a good assertiveness training/confidence boosting course at your local TAFE in the meantime.

You need to learn a better way to handle other people’s teasing and not just think: ‘okay i get teased cuz I’m overweight so I’ll lose weight’ (!!!). That’s not a solution to being picked on cuz there’s always going to be someone in the world who’ll get their kicks by teasing etc and, as you’ve already found out, if they’re gonna tease you they’ll tease you regardless of what you do; so you lost weight and they stopped teasing you cuz you were overweight but then they started teasing you cuz of your height and the size of your boobs! Even if you could change those things too, I pretty much guarantee the teasing wouldn’t stop, they’d just find some other reason to tease you. Also it’ll help you handle the other girls if/when they turn against you cuz the boys fancy you more than they fancy them!

Get some confidence/assertiveness training first and you’ll be in a much better position to hold your own against the people at school who you see as being ‘mean’; learn how not to let other kids’ teasing, attitudes and prejudices bother you and you’ll be in a much stronger position to enjoy and thrive in the public school system.

Hannah

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Terri
Don’t base your major life decisions on how you look.

If that is the only reason you want to go to public school, then stay home a bit longer until you mature a bit more and make sure it is absolutely what you want to do no matter what.

It would be terrible if you went, and then the guys began to think you weren’t so hot after all, or they did but the girls were jealous and didn’t want to be friends, then you were miserable and wanted to go back home again.

If you really really want to go to PS I will not judge you for that decision, but make sure it is an informed decision and you know what will be required of you to get in to the public system again.

but again, don’t make decisions because someone thinks you are hot. The new will wear off. It always does.

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kwinkle
Look, life is not always easy. You will have to learn to face everyday challenges. Not everyone is going to think you are attractive, and that does not mean you should hide at your house. Almost everyone gets teased at some point and we do not all run and drop out to become home schooled. Sucess is SO much more than having boys think you are hot. I think you should talk to your parents and a guidance counselor and find out what is best for your FUTURE regardless of your popularity and chest size.
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hampots
I think you should ask your mum and dad what they think as they are your guardians. If you were unhappy because of some nasty minded people at the school and are quite happy to be taught at home and still get just as good results at the end, then keep with the home schooling. Remember whatever you decide to do, its your decision at the end of the day and noone elses. Your the most important person and i hope you do well in your life.
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Anonymous
11 and in 7th grade is a bit young. You don’t want to be so much younger than the others in your class. My daughter was the youngest like you’d be and it was nothing but problem after problem after problem. You shouldn’t choose public school because “every guy in my old class room thinks i’m hot” you should choose for academic reasons! It sounds as if you are succeeding at home.
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Gypsy
Listen to Glurpy. Do what she says. She has experience with homeschooling and with the public school. You have to concentrate on your education and your own self worth. You are at a very confusing stage and you have to have a strong sense of who you are. Find friends with a homeschool group or a church who will like you for you.
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Anonymous
Boy, you’re a poster child for Homeschooling

NO boy would TEASE you for being 11 and a B, they’d want to learn about feeling for lumps!

It must be A cup girls who are jealous becuase you have something to BRAG about

You are every reason in the world why NOT to go to Public School and why to homeschool!

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Ms. Phyllis
People can be unkind wherever you go–small town or big city. It’s what’s inside their heart that makes them be unkind.

I think you should continue to homeschool and work on your self esteem. What you do or do not do should not be based upon the comments of others.

Your parents can help you with your self esteem, get you into assertiveness training, etc.

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Anonymous
u dont go 2 school 2 meet boys. when u get older u will realize that it dont matter what people think. i think u should stay in home school.
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