How many of you have 18 year old kids that are working and going to college?

your not a softy. Im 18 years old. I have a job and i go to school full time. My parents say as long as i keep up my grades, and work, they will pay for stuff. Sometimes i pay for my gas money, but they usually cover it. my parents thing say that these grades are what is going to help me in the future. They are here to help me do great in life.

If you charge her rent, she will be tempted to find a roommate and her own apartment. Even if you only charge her 100 dollars a month, she will feel like she’s not really welcome there and that she’s just using up resources and space in your home, so for a couple hundred bucks more, she can have the privacy and independence of her own place.

Maybe you want her out though…

I personally couldn’t stand living with my parents by the time I was 19 and had to leave.

But, if she’s living at home, there will be a lot less temptation for doing the naughty things college students do.

If she had no respect for what she is given then she should be charged rent to gain a true understanding of what being on her own would really be like.

That said she sounds like she is a well grounded person, who is very responsible in her studies, work, and volunteer work. I think it is great you reward her by allowing her the opportunity to better herself and get a good start on her adult life. I know I had to move out because I went to school far away and made some bad financial decisions that I am paying for now.

I’m not a parent, but I have friends and twin siblings who are on their way to college. I just graduated.

Not at all. Actually some of the parents I know refuse to allow their kids to work so their can concentrate on their studies. Most wouldn’t charge rent regardless of their child’s academic standing.

A good friend of mine lived at home during her undergrad and she was rarely there. By rarely, I mean laundry and sleep with the once weekly dinner. It seems rather unfair to charge when most of the time your daughter will be at the library, or in classes, with friends &c.

Sorry but your friend needs to mind her business.

I wish I could my parents could afford what you are doing for your daughter. If your daughter is going to school and most importantly succeeding and taking it seriously whats the problem. If you can afford to whats wrong with you guys supporting her until she’s done with her degree.

You are not being a softy. Softy is a parent that allows their child of 25+ years who is doing nothing with their life to continue to stay with them rent free without paying for anything. You are simply helping your daughter get through attaining her degree.

No. My daughter is going to college this fall. Everything will be paid for. She will probably get a part time job in the spring to pay for her entertainment. She is working this summer and saving money for the fall. Now if her grades drop, she will be moving home! We will give her a free ride as long as the grades are up.

I don’t think you should charge her rent as long as she is going to school full time. However, you need to stick to your guns. If she drops out, begins going to school part time, or continues living at your house after she graduates from college, then you should charge her rent.

i was working full time, schooling full time, and living alone when i was 18. i wish my family had the money to support me the way you have done your daughter….but i have learned to be very independent and self-sufficient from struggling on my own. it’s really up to you and your daughter, if she starts slacking, the lay down some law ! but as of right now keep it up, you are doing her a major favor by helping her…..just dont spoon feed her / give her everything on a silver platter.

as she gets older try making her take on some of her expenses…..everything that is not a neccesity (cell phone, gas money….she can pay that)

I am 19 now, i work in law enforcement, and still live on my own, i was forced to quit school b/c neither my parents or myself have the money to pay for it. but, while i was in school, i made the Dean’s list consecutively, worked full time, rented my own place, payed all of my own bills and completely supported myself.

i just wish i could have had parents like you to help financially and support me with my bills/ school.

so please, don’t take that away from her, she needs you!

As long as she’s in college… continue as planned and do not charge rent. How can one be TOO GOOD to their children who are on task and a benefit to our society?

no…you should only start charging if shes out of school and still living with u guys