Depressed about missing out on my High School Years?
For the last few months I’ve been horribly depressed almost every day. My only friend has a MySpace page and I can’t help but look at it and see all his friends and good times he had in High School. He went to so many parties, had so many friends/girlfriends and seemingly had a great time.
I had NONE of that. I’ve been pretty sheltered for the last few years and have no social life. Now my school years are basically over. I’m going to community college then maybe a university but I’m still so depressed it makes me sick. How can I feel better all of this? I can’t really relate to anyone. I wish every day that I had stayed in school.
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There is absolutely nothing about high school that would have set you up with a great social life, and there is nothing about an alternative high school that deprived you of it. I know plenty of kids that are home schooled that go out and choose activities and volunteer groups that give them a great social life, and I know high schoolers that are essentially loners – and they comment that seeing other people having friends and a good time makes it worse.
Noticing that you are missing out (and, no, parties and My Space aren’t signs of a successful life or even a successful adolescence) should be a strong motivator for you to find social opportunities.
I suspect that you have a bit of a lazy streak, anyway, based on what you indicate motivated you to chose the schooling you did and ‘barely’ get by. It’s possible that you are also generally depressed which can feed the lazy streak. I would definitely try to work some exercise (even if it is just walking a lap or two around the campus every day) into your routine… not only will it help elevate your mood, but you’ll be out there seeing people…. don’t miss an opportunity to say ‘hi’ even if that is the only thing you do.
If there are volunteer opportunities or clubs on campus, join (Oh, I know, the meeting is ‘of course’ at a terribly inconvenient time… prioritize!). You may not stay interested, but it will get you out of the bubble that you have built yourself. Study at school as much as you can.
Be friendly to people at work…. not creepy, just friendly. True, they still might not invite you to their parties (they don’t invite me, but after a few college parties, I realized that I am definitely not the party type, anyway, and I appreciate them as friendly coworkers).
If you friend is a good friend, ask you friend to be blunt with you about why you don’t have more friends. But whatever you do, don’t argue with the answer… it’s probably got a grain of truth in there somewhere.
You can’t go back and make different choices in the past, and if you focus on regretting those choices, you’ll miss opportunities to make different choices now…. and have even more to regret. You chose your path for a reason, and you’d probably, actually, make the same choice again. Don’t waste your life with “what if’s”… we all have them. And absolutely DO NOT use your high school as an excuse for why you can’t make friends now. Baloney. Get up, get out, and get a life.
P.s. Try having fun in college and put the past in the past
go to college so you won’t regret it in your future, it’s an opportunity to meet new people and engage in activities. college is better than high school so you didn’t miss much.
