which school?
But they don’t have dances or proms, and discourage boyfriends before highschool. They don’t really have talent shows, they have people in your grade crammed up in a small “music room” just showing off, and giggling because they messed up, because they only got 2 days of practice. Maybe that’s because I’m only 13 though. Our school puts on great plays, and has a good theater. All the buildings aren’t exactly new though. Some are kinda. But some of the rooms are cold and kinda plain.
I’m thinking of going to a public middleschool. Is it worth it? At these public schools, it’s easier to be popuar and accepted, and even people you would never think would have boyfriends, have them at public. They have REAL talent shows, and since I want to be singer…and dances. My school has “banquets” and a couple posters.
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Public school do generally have more artistic type classes offered than Christian schools – in fact I doubt if you have a fraction of all of the classes that public school offer. But to be honest, if your desire is to be a singer or actress, you would do MUCH better to find the junior theater and music programs that are outside the school. There are a lot of these in Oregon! Who you get to know and work with will be much better than those you will see at the public schools. And public schools in Oregon are cutting their programs from lack of funding, so what is there today may be gone by the time you get to High School.
As to having boyfriends – yes, you can have them more visibly in public school, but that is really more controlled by your parents than the school. If they don’t agree with you dating, just because you can be seen with the boy at school doesn’t mean you can have a boyfriend at home.
Short answer:
– For your academic education: Christian is better
– For the Arts: private theater/singing is better
– For boyfriends: Public is better
– For quality friends: Christian is better
You’re growing up, you decide which of these is the most important to you. Don’t let a bunch of adults do that for you.
Your question states “Is it worth it?”. Is it worth what?
For my family, the education is the most important thing. Social life is part of the education but unlike public school or christian school, home school can put the social life in a separate compartment from the scholastic. That way it is more efficient both for the social and the scholastic.
I work for the public high school. It is a relatively good school. The majority of the fights we have are girls fighting over guys and guys fighting over girls. So, yes, they can have girlfriends and boyfriends. We have a few same sex couples.
The rule is no outward display of affection, but everyone finds ways to get by with kissing and hugging.
The real talent shows are mostly rock groups. They are basically fund raising events and we have had no ‘stars’ make it past local teen clubs. (Not since 1971 when we had a graduate that went to Nashville.)
So, in answer to your question. I don’t think it is worth it…whatever “it” is.
That said, school’s primary purpose is an education, not talent shows, not dances, etc. Which school is going to give you a better education? A school talent show is not going to do much for a person who wants to be a singer. Truly.
That all these kids have boyfriends does NOT make the public school system a sign of being socially worthy. Boyfriends/girlfriends at that age are disposable; they are almost never really serious, even if the two sleep together, which they think makes it serious. No, it just makes them immature. I completely agree with the idea of waiting until high school before dating. I saw the few who dated when I was middle school age and it ends up in heartbreak, something that can be very difficult to handle at that age. Dating is supposed to be courtship, you figure out who you’re going to marry, not just, “Oh, yeah, I think you’ll do to make out with.”
As your parent, I would probably keep you at the Christian school for middle school.
If you switch to a public school there will be less focus on this – mostly because of the diverse population and priorities can be different (not better – not worse).
I think it’s interesting that you feel it’s easier to be popular and accepted in the p.s. – for some it’s torture and quite the opposite. And as for talent shows – not all schools do this. I guess you know your potential school does.
What is your heart telling you? Can you do singing somewhere else? Lessons, a choir, join a band? How much more singing could you do at the new school?
As for boyfriends – unless it’s about diversity and choice, I guarantee that even though it’s discouraged at your current school, it’s going on.
Think about whether you are choosing things based on long term or short term goals – either is fine – just be conscious of it!
g’luck!
I would stick with home schooling. I think it’s the best way to figure out who you are, because you have more time to yourself. If people are snobbish and don’t talk to you where you are home schooled, trust me that public school is much worse, and is even worse in the grade that you are in. A lot of hazing goes on in middle schools and high schools now, and I would just rather see you not get involved with all of that hype.
