i was wondering…??

My telling you to do what pleases you and ignore what anyone else says isn’t going to help you. You already know that you should resist peer pressure. The trick is figuring out how to do it. Let’s face it, everyone wants approval, and teenagers want it more than anyone else. It’s just a phase, but while you’re in it, it’s your life. Intellectually, you know it’s only temporary. Someday, you’ll be grown up, you’ll have more to worry about than what someone else thinks of you, and you’ll look back and wonder what all the angst was about. But this isn’t someday, and you’re perfectly normal to worry about popularity. Having said that, I think you should consider doing the things you enjoy, and here’s why: YOU CAN’T PLEASE EVERYBODY. Trust me. In four years, high school will be behind you, and you can either remember having fun in band and volleyball for four years, or you can remember giving up things you like to please someone else. Either way, you’ll be four years older. If you want to be popular, here are some tried and true ways to do it:

1. Smile and say hello to people. Simple but effective.

2. Smile and say thank you to anyone who does anything for you, even if it’s just picking up the pencil you drop, or holding the door when your hands are full.

3. Don’t say mean things about anyone, and don’t stand around and listen to others mean-mouth anyone. Change the subject, or excuse yourself and walk away. A simple “Sorry, I have to go, see you later.” will suffice. Don’t preach to the evil-mongers, just don’t stick around them. They’ll get the message. If they call you a goody-goody, refer to item 2. Smile and say thank you.

I know, it sounds too easy to work. Trust me, it actually does. Make this quote from Shakespeare your motto:

“This above all, to thine own self be true, and it shall follow as the night the day, thou can not then be false to any man.”

This fear of being judged will not go away no matter what you do. Everybody feels it. If you don’t join with people who share your interests you will feel it alone. If you join you will have friends to joke about it with.

Both band and sports will be fun for you. The real question will be whether you have time for both, while studying plus whatever else you do. Music is something you will enjoy all your life so you really want to keep playing. Start by doing both in your Freshman year. If it is too much then decide what you really enjoy and do that.

Just don’t openly tell people you were in band. I was semi popular and i was in band (atleast ur not in orchestra or there would be no cure for this disease). When my poplular friends found out they kinda gave me a hard time but all you have to say is “lay off my a-s-s baby!, Get outa my a-s-s!” Then they will laugh and all will be good.

i say go for it…if thats what you want then do it!!!

you shouldn’t care what people say i played the clarinet in the school band and not once did anyone ever make fun of me 🙂

hope this helps you!!!

I don’t really think so. At my high school, there are tons of kids in band!

do what ever makes you happy…being popular at school doesnt make any difference to you when you leave.no one will know whether the ‘cool kids’ liked you or not. this is your one chance to get the most out of school…so go for it !