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HELP! pt.2….my daughter is failing all her classes. we need help.?

here’more info. she’s 14 yrs old she’s 9th grade. in sept. 07 she’ll be in 10th grade. this was her first year in high school and it was not good. the teachers said not turning in homework, not trying hard enough, she can do better. I’ve tried restriction, no phone even get good grades and you can have this or that. well, she promised me that she will try harder and I think she did. Her grades were getting better. Very good. But when she took her finals she must of failed every one of them because all her grader went to hell. If I could go to school with her I would but they wont let me, I’ve tried..I am a single parent 2 kids a girl and a boy. she’s 14 he’s 10. I know most of her friens. they all call me mom or auntie. She don’t do drugs or drink. She’s very lazy. Some teachers say she’s at that rebellous and lazy age. I say this is 2007 you need an education to make it in this world today. I need her to get hers. What can I do? are there any orgs., groups, clubs??

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I’m not sure why you posted this in the homeschooling section. Are you thinking of pulling her out of her public high school and homeschooling her?

You may want to ask it in the “primary and secondary” education category.

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Oyaya
I’m a Poli Sci Major and helping my brother through High school. He has the same issues except he also has disabilities. This is what I do:

I am in constant contact with his teachers from the first day of classes. I introduce myself and let them know I am fully involved. This usually sets up a good relationship and believe it or not they treat your child a little differently when they know you care. They email me, call me, or write me a note when issues arise otherwise, I know the homework assignments and either review them and/or assist him with them DAILY.

This is a pain because I have 2 kids and a hubby of my own! Once his work is done, I need to follow up that he actually turned it in. It’s not easy but I guarantee it works. From an F to a final grade of an A- by the end of the term!

In other words….don’t give her a choice. It MUST get done.

It took time, effort, and a whole lot of PATIENCE!

Good Luck!

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joebillfromoldky
The lazy and rebellious comments make me wonder if she is having problems with depression. Social anxiety might be an issue at this age. I would suggest that you consult a counselor. While you need to be cautious how you approach this with your daughter, it may pay dividends down the road. Some times a child is failing because they are not challenged in their current grade. Sometimes it is the start of depression. Handle this well and she may develop a pure understanding of the need for mental health, and maybe even find interest in that field. Good Luck.
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Anonymous
There are self driven home school curriculums out there that may help. I would stay in constant contact with her teachers and show up unexpectedly to check on or peek in on her and see for yourself what she is doing in class. Is she sleeping, is she skipping, is she even paying attention? I know some schools have websites where the teachers post the homework and the parents can log on to see what it is so they will know if their child should be doing homework or not, ask about it. You need to set up a direct line of communication between you and the teacher and cut off her social circle until she can bring her grades up. Talk with her and ask her what is on her mind.
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KE
I don’t know of any organizations, groups, or clubs. But you could start one for her and her friends. Make a study group and invite her friends over to study. You should supervise so that you know they are indeed studying. Plan your study group meetings so that they take place before test time.

They could even get together and do certain homework projects together. Help her see that it can be fun. She could just be under stress. Help alleviate that stress for her.

Maybe talk to the parents of her friends and let them know what you are doing. I’m sure they would appreciate it as well.

This is what I intend on doing for my own daughter if her grades should drop.

Good luck and hope everything goes well.

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Yarnlady_needsyarn
Have you looked into the YMCA or Boys and Girls Club? Here in our area, there is a group called Teen Unity Team that has formed study groups for various high schools in our area, and they meet in different places like Denny’s, Jamba Juice, and the library.

Type “teen study group” and the name of your town in the search box.

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nicoleband0
Maybe the teachers aren’t interesting enough, you can always ask her if she would like to be homeschooled. If that’s the case you can always let her pick the subjects that she wants to learn. I know that teachers would bord me to death. I homeschool because I do not like the public school system. Teachers can get away with the stupidist things and still not get into trouble. Or, maybe she feels like the workload is too easy therefore she refusses to do them. I also did this. Just ask her about her classes individually. Ask her if she is having trouble in any or if they are too easy.
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glurpy
Why is this in the homeschooling section? Try a diffferent section and you’ll find more responses about clubs, tutoring, etc.
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.L♥ve.Peace.Happiness™ 🙂
okay, there’s probably something else on her mind. talk it out with her, tell her how important it is to have an education. describe how her life would be if she didnt have an education. u could try to get strict as in no phone calls, no computer, no t.v. until she shows you that she’s done her homework. try to take time off to help her or hire a tutor. hope this helps!
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missmuffin
If you decide to homeschool her you will be able to monitor her progress and make sure she is doing all her work.

Check out this website: http://www.homeschools.org/

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